It has been two weeks since I moved to Connecticut; somehow, it feels as if it's been longer than that. I guess being a city wolf all my life, the change to a small town where sidewalks are definitely not a priority for the government is making an impression on me.
One of the things that I have noticed in the short time I've been here is how difficult it is to meet people. I mean, never mind the fact that gay-life is practically non-existent here, there are very few cafes and such places where one might casually meet with friends... Or, at least, I haven't found many.
On the other hand, we seem to be living in an area that kind of makes me think of a combination between Desperate Housewives and a small town, non-pornographic Queer As Folk. In a dinner we had with the neighbours we found out there are actually many gay couples living in the area... It's just very unlike anything I'm used to.
In Mexico, I wasn't a party animal, going to clubs, meeting guys and dancing my young days away; in fact, most of my 'partying' consisted in getting together with a group of friends at their or my apartment to talk, eat, drink and just be silly. In a way, I see how it could be this way here rather easily... The thing is, I guess, breaking into the group.
How does one infiltrate into a group without relying on classic meeting places like bars and clubs? Or more modern alternatives like Bear411, Growlr, Scruff and other pages of the sort? And, mostly, the problem I have with websites like those is that people aren't really looking to meet others for friendship. They may claim that they are but, seriously, the first thing you see in a profile is NOT their interests and description, but their picture - let's face it, how many people have we met on there because they were interesting without really considering their appearance?
I have yet to figure this out... It's tough being new in a place like this but I'm sure I'll meet people eventually! I can't wait to have dinner parties and just get-togethers with people in the apartment!
