A couple of weeks ago, I was reminded of this topic in one of our parties. See, in Mexico, most 'traditions' related to the bear or leather community are literally non-existent, so I was quite surprised to see that one of our bear friends had a red handkerchief in his right side... Now, in the leather community this would mean he is a fisting bottom... Of course, when we told him, he had absolutely no idea of what it meant and was quite shocked by it - he obviously removed it immediately.
Anyway, the interesting point is how in this country a lot of people may talk about how they are part of this or that group without really even knowing what it is about. I remember when I went to D.C. to visit my current boyfriend, he took me to this leather-store where I saw these little cards with a bunch of colours and what they represented. It went something like this:
Left back pocket - TopRight back pocket - Bottom
Black - S&M
Red - Fisting
Dark Blue - Anal sex
Light Blue - Oral sex
Yellow - Watersports
Brown - Scat
Green - Hustler*
Orange - Anything, anytime.
Purple - Piercing*
Gray - Bondage
(*I'm not really sure about these ones, I lost my card and I got these from Wikipedia... The others I think are correct, though).
My bear then explained how there were all these codes that people actually used in the community... Then I remembered this very famous bar in Mexico City called "Tom's Leather Bar". Now, this place is probably as hardcore as it gets... And nothing really happens. It's basically a bar (where nobody is wearing leather or anything like it) with a back room where people go to mess around. There is nothing there that even remotely resembles a 'community'.
Now, while I don't actually think I could get into this world, I think it's pretty cool to have this form of communication, it somehow makes it feel more like an actual group in which you can really feel like you belong.
Note: I found a more detailed list here, if you are interested http://www.cuffs.stuorg.iastate.edu/?p=199
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